Sunday, 10 March 2019

Long Distanced Friendships



I think it's  inevitable that as an adult, your friendship numbers  reduce  and you search for quality over quantity. People move around, are in relationships, have families and it's not like at school when you're friends with everyone  purely  because you're pushed into the same environment each day for hours at a time.

Maybe you kept in  touch with school  friends, or maybe you lost touch like I did. I moved away to University when I was very ill and essentially started again at  age 18. I made friends there but we were all  from  different ends of the country and unfortunately don't speak very much now. To add to that, I went travelling and met my now best friend in Sri Lanka, of all places. However again, she lives a good 3 hours away by car.

I also met people who helped me during recovery and bloggers, who are all over. In fact,  I had a great day yesterday with one of my friends who  has just had a baby, which involved driving 100 miles to  see her.

And then  last year, I moved again  to a town  where  I knew nobody. I joined a really  friendly gym though and have met some lovely girls who are much more local.

Writing this has made me realised how many times I've moved around.

But  despite that, I can honestly say that I don't ever feel like they live far away and I guess this a post for them to say thank you for being amazing. Long distanced friendships aren't always easy but I know, hand on heart, if I called any of them, they'd be on the other end of the phone at any time. All of my friendships are those where you can not see someone for years but pick up as if it were yesterday. And I think that's what makes me lucky.

Friendships seem to dwindle when one person isn't reciprocating the effort of another.  But I think my long distance friendships work because we know we have to make an effort as we are not physically there. Distance  can be difficult but I don't think it has to be the end of a friendship, and those who are really worth it, will still be there for you.

I'm not really sure where I'm going with this but I was thinking about where my friends live in relation to me and most of them  are far away, and of course it would be great if they were closer, but they are  all absolutely brilliant and I wouldn't change any of them.

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