Monday, 11 January 2016

Good for them, not for me

I've been recovered long enough now to know not to watch adverts or indulge too much on social media during January because all we see is New Year, New Me. More specifically, diet and gym company advertisements - but you know, it's fine now because they don't bother me. They don't tempt me to join in and I know that 99% of people who have been sucked in, will probably have given up by now.

But that's not what I'm here to write about. Actually, it's the complaints I see from the eating disorder community that worry me the most. I no longer really speak to people (apart from the odd few) who are or who have been ill, mostly because a) now that I'm better I have nothing in common with that person, b) I don't really want to be talking about it all with people who are still ill and c) it's kind of all a bit dull and boring to me now.

BUT I've still seen people posting about how it's inconsiderate of people to post about their weight loss, their new diet attempt or new gym work out.

It may seem controversial, but that's life I'm afraid. For years now, we've lived in a society where fad diets are all the range. It's unfortunate and as much as I don't like it, it's just how it is. Maybe one day, I'll look back on this post and find that we've evolved to have a much calmer, nourishing focused outlook on food, but as of this moment (although it is getting better!), we don't.

As part of recovery, I'm afraid to say that we have to accept living in today's western culture. We have to accept that there will always be someone posting about their new diet or 2 stone weight loss and that is OK. They aren't trying to offend you. In fact, anything anyone ever says will offend someone or some small minority group. You know, if we get a hair cut and shout about it, we could upset someone with trichotillomania; women moan about their monthly cycle and we upset someone who is infertile; we post about our new 10 day juice fast and we upset those with anorexia.

Of course, I don't believe the media should encourage so much dieting and change amongst us all during January, but that's an accepted tradition now. We don't have to engage in it - that's OUR choice. But I do think that maybe we need to realise that instead of arguing with those who are innocently posting, it's actually us that needs to learn to accept the world for what it currently is and find a much more positive way of living in it.

1 comment

The Style Rawr said...

Such an insightful post, Sam! I'm not really a fan of fad diets & constant social updates about someone's weight loss but that's just me. I agree, it's so easy to offend people these days! If something is posted innocently without any malicious intent, then it's no skin off my nose.

T xx

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