Wednesday, 29 July 2015


Yesterday I watched a programme called Before I Kick the Bucket, which was about a 39 year old woman named Rowena, who has terminal cancer. The programme is only 30 minutes long, but follows Rowena decide how to spend the time she has left on this earth.

What I thought was most interesting was that Rowena questioned whether we should have a bucket list or not. I guess the idea of a bucket list immediately creates pressure to do certain things within a certain time frame. If we don't complete those things, then we're disappointed in ourselves and begin to generate guilt or self loathing; neither of which are particularly brilliant.

But actually what was most thought provoking, was that I think what people regret more. It's not the things they haven't done or the places they haven't seen, but more the time they've not spent with loved ones. People are about feeling and emotion, we want to feel love and a sense of belonging, whether that's to a family or friendship group. Most of us are happiest when we're with the ones that we love, so maybe we should be replacing bucket lists with simply spending more time with those people.

I've been working in my new job for a tiny five weeks now, and already three people have sadly passed away. Two of those individuals came to the company whilst I've been there, so I've essentially been one of their full time carers. And you know what? Watching someone die is not easy but it does remind you that life is precious and life is short.

And for that reason, I love my new job.

I love knowing that I am making a difference in someone's life when they need help the most. I love knowing that every moment spent with someone dying, means I am that little bit more grateful to be alive.

All of these people have one thing in common too, they want to be at home with their loved ones. Not bungee jumping or traveling the world. Sure, we can do those things too if we want to, but maybe bucket lists aren't so crucial after all.

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