Sunday, 7 June 2015

WHAT YOUNG ADULTS SHOULD KNOW

Society has come a seriously long way over the last half century. Today, we are far more accepting than ever before with more opportunities available to us than in previous decades (if you go an seek them out!). I always thought that once uni was over, I'd need to have a life plan - probably because I thought that's what was expected of me, and everyone else seems to have one. How wrong was I? In fact, the more people I speak to, the more I realise that most of us are simply plodding along 'faking it until we make it'.  And you know what? Life is probably more fun that way. 

See, if we're honest, most 21 year old's aren't proper adults. We don't run our own homes, have husbands/wives or children to look after. We're a generation of teen-adults. Not quite adult but no longer a teenager. We sit comfortably in between! Some of us feel immense pressure to succeed and grow up as soon as possible, whilst others are enjoying every waking moment on the likes of League of Legends. Whichever group you fall into, here's some small reminders..

1. It's OK to not know what career you want or what you want to do with you life. For the past three years, I've been so focused on leaving uni and solely following my dream career path, however someone said to me 'you have your whole life to work, what's the rush?' and they are so right which is why I decided to go to Sri Lanka. I love traveling and traveling makes me happy so why not? Being a young adult is for figuring out what job you want and what makes you happy.

2. OR when you are going to get married and/or have children. Looooong gone are the days in which you need to be married with two kids and a house by the time you're 25. So, if you're single, chill! As corny as it sounds, loving yourself is what matters right now so enjoy your freedom.

3. You don't need to be doing what everyone else your age is doing. If you don't enjoy what the 'it' crowd is doing, then don't do it. No one changed the world by copying others anyway..

4. Friendships actually require effort.
 It was so easy to maintain a friendship when you were forced into a classroom with the same people every day, wasn't it? Unfortunately, things become a little trickier when you leave education because you have to actually make an effort. People move away, we get jobs and it becomes a lot harder to find a time that suits everyone. It's definitely more about quality than quantity, and those who you keep in touch with will be worth the effort.


5. Be nice to people, you don't know what they're going through. We're not selfish 13 year old's any more and no, the world does not revolve around us. Maya Angelou famously said "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." I don't think I need to expand any more..

6. Always dream. You may not know what job you want, where you want to live, who you want to marry.. but always hold onto your dream. It's definitely not childish, and even if you don't achieve it, you'll probably find a better, bigger dream along the way.



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Laura Black said...

I definitely agree with a lot of these points, especially number 1. I feel like schools and colleges put a lot of emphasis on knowing what you are going to be, but how can someone at 16, 17 or 18 really know what they want to become when they haven't had the chance to live and experience things. Number 5 is also a great point!

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Pinkie Prim said...

Love number 5, new favourite quote! Lovely post :) xx

Sam said...

Thank you! I completely agree with you, we are still so young at 16-18 xx

Sam said...

Thank you! x

May Cho said...

Loved this post! I'm still 17 and am only approaching young adulthood, but I'm already guilty of several of your accusations (too strong a word, but you get the gist); I'm so focused on university and so focused on getting my life sorted out that I've been missing out on life. It's only recently that I realised that my life will go down in the drain should I continue being the pedantic and obsessively-planned person I am, so I've been embracing spontaneity!

I loved everything you shared, and number 4 resonates with me so much. I don't have many friends but the friends that I do have, some have drifted apart, and I was bitter about it for a while, but now I realised that it was because we lacked effort.

What a wonderful post, Sam. Wishing you lots of luck and sending you lots of love for your future. <3

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Sam said...

Thank you so so much for this comment, May! I'm so pleased you've identified with some of these :) However, don't be too hard on yourself. You an still plan your life, just remember it's about balance :) xxx

Missy May said...

This is a great post and I so agree with your points, Samantha. Number 3 couldn't be more true. Love it!! :-)


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Tanya Beetham said...

Well written, I couldn't agree more, and huge love for Maya Angelou. She said a lot of wise and true things. PS, I am 26 and still faking it..

TheStyleRawr said...

Such a thought-provoking post! I agree with all of these, especially number 3. :)

Tara x

Sam said...

Thank you so much :) xx

Sam said...

Thank you, Tanya! xx

Sam said...

Thank you! :) xx

The Nerdy Me said...

Agree with everything, especially with first one. It's really okay to not know, you will find your path eventfully. :)

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Sam said...

Aw thank you very much, that's so sweet xx

Cheryl Wooodman said...

Very true! Especially the keeping in touch with friends, its so strange now to look back and think we spent so much of our time with friends at school. Once you get into working 9-5 it swings in the complete opposite direction. Friends at work can be tricky if you work in the same team or are 'the boss'!
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Alina Isaev said...

That's so true, you don't realise that it takes effort to actually see people when you work full time -it's difficult to see family too for that matter! lol

Good points - love the last one especially and good one to end on xx

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Sam said...

Thank you so much! I'm glad you agree :) xx

Sam said...

Haha I bet! There is a line which is difficult to cross at work xx

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Sam said...

Thank you very much! So kind of you x

Imogen said...

What a really lovely and thought provoking post! I felt totally rushed into uni and getting a job but you're so right, we've got the rest of our lives to work. your last point was my favourite :) x

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Jacqueline Hough said...

What a wonderful post! And number five is so true. You never know what someone is going through. Thank you!

Sam said...

Thank you for your lovely comment :) I hope you are enjoying your life now without feeling rushed xx

Sam said...

Thank you so much, that's so kind xx

Diana Horsfall said...

Great post! Totally agreed with you!

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Sam said...

Thank you! x

Jennifer Jayne said...

This are great points, and I agree with them all.
I'm not a child anymore but I'm always dreaming of the next big thing.

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Sam said...

Thank you - I'm so pleased you're still dreaming :) xx

Shaqinah said...

Such a well-written and though-out post! I'm fast approaching 25 and freaking out about how I completely far off my reality is to my expectations when I was 16/18! Xx

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Sam said...

Thank you! Ah, don't worry.. trust the universe to get you wherever you want to be xx

Angharad May said...

It was so nice to read this post, to know that I am not alone in being a 'teen-adult' - I definitely feel as though I am more of a teenager than an adult, and feel so much pressure to do things in life that are worthwhile, but it's so hard when I'm not well enough. Thank you for writing yet another great post! Xxx

Anne said...

This was a really good read! I often find myself thinking about these things and I guess we all do. I'm turning 23 and I haven't figured things out yet. 10 year old me thought otherwise. But that's okay. We don't really need to have everything all figured out at an instant.

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Jennie May said...

Completely agree! For the longest time I thought I was supposed to know exactly what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, but really I don't have any solid plans and that's totally okay :) xx

Sam said...

Thank you so much, so kind of you as always. You are definitely not alone :) xx

Sam said...

Thank you so much! I don't think many of us live the life we imagined.. hopefully it is much better ;) xxx

Sam said...

You're exactly right, I guess we should just enjoy the ride and see where life takes us xx

Ellie Adams said...

Sam, you have totally outdone yourself. This is such a brilliant post and totally agree with every point. Always dream, that's something I learned along the way. Never give up dreaming! :)


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xx

Sam said...

Thank you so much Elle! This is such a great comment xx

Nevena Krstic said...

This is so true! At the moment talking to people always revolves around, so what are you doing after uni? Erm, I dunno have a few months rest then see :') haha xx

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Sam said...

There's certainly no rush! xx

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