Tuesday, 14 October 2014


'The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change' - Carl Rogers
Today I was reminded of why I am a Psychology student. Sat in a lecture, listening to the different approaches to personality is not a passionate interest of mine, but I am always intrigued by the humanistic approach and how it places value on the self, uniqueness and self-actualization. For me, this is one of the approaches I like the most and definitely try and apply to myself when I can.

It is the above quote that sent my mind into a spiral of thought because it is undoubtedly true. I am definitely feeling the pressures of third year already - the overwhelming amount of work to do combined with what feels like a short supply of time - and along with stress brings out those unhealthy coping mechanisms that we all have in one form or another. However, it is only when I accept that those mechanisms are my way of coping, rather than brushing them under the carpet and ignoring them, then I can acknowledge and change them.

I am also beginning to think that my rigid way of thinking is becoming more flexible because I am starting to accept myself. The fewer comparisons I make, the more time I spend looking after myself. It may seem selfish but it has meant I am more happy and content. I know what is right for me, and accepting this has meant I have been able to make changes for the better. It has also meant that my outlook on what 'recovered' looks like, is far different to how I initially envisaged it. I no longer believe that recovery just stops when we declare ourselves 'free', but more that we always continue to grow, develop and change.

Of course, change isn't always easy to accept, and changing traits we don't like isn't the simplest of things to do. However, if we allow change I believe we lose a huge weight of negative, destructive energy and it is possible to become the person we want to be.

1 comment

Angharad said...

This was so refreshing to read! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I especially loved the last sentence, so inspirational and uplifting! X

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