Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Coffee, Conversation & Company

I have spent the past two days mixing work with seeing friends for coffee, conversation and a goodbye for a few months as Friday sees me move to Uni for the final time. I say coffee, but really I mean that I have embraced the autumn flavours, and sipped pumpkin spice and gingerbread lattes.

This afternoon was especially lovely, as I saw a friend that I have not seen for many months. She is one of those people that I can see after a long time, and it's like we've never been apart - an oldie but a goodie! After catching up on each other's lives, the conversation turned towards how she thought I inspire people. I find this extremely flattering but sometimes it can be a struggle because people compare their lives to mine. They see that I went to Thailand and had the time of my life, and whilst this is completely true, it was also the hardest thing I've done and the biggest risk I've ever taken. My life is far from perfect, and it most definitely hasn't been easy. I sit here thinking as I type, that yes I may have done one thing, but there will be things that those people have done that I haven't. We are all different, have achieved different things so therefore, comparing is utterly pointless.

Ultimately, we spoke about comparing and how we should not compare our lives with someone else. I have been having doubts about returning to Uni, where the environment can sometimes include diet/exercise conversation. But, I am reminding myself daily that comparison is the thief of joy. We are all surrounded by negative energy, and it is very individual as to how you define that. What is healthy for me isn't necessarily healthy for you, and that is OK. For as long as I live on this earth, there will always be someone smarter, smaller, bigger, have more freckles than me, a longer nose...

I am currently the happiest I've been in years. I am laughing again, my smiles reaches my eyes and for once, I'm being honest with myself. If I feel those comparison doubts creeping in, then I know that the healthy thing to do, is indulge in good coffee and company. It's what is right for me.

1 comment

Gems - Fashion Well Done said...

I totally agree with you, comparin your life to others is a dangerous thing and can cause feelings of guilt. When I get into feelings like those my boyfriend tells me it's all relative - people do certain things all the time, but because I suffer depression and anxiety, it is an achievement for me, so I shouldn't see it as anything less.
Good luck on your return to university, I know you will conquer it in yur own way :)

Gems x
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