Saturday, 18 January 2014

Comparisons

“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

I've begun this post with that quotation, because it is something I am trying to realize more myself. Making comparisons is something that I am constantly doing, and it is not healthy. In fact, it can often be detrimental. Whether it's achievements, fashion style, grades, or more specifically to me, how far someone is running or what is/isn't being eaten.

A hurdle I am trying to jump over at the moment, is comparing what I eat with what others eat and when. I struggle to eat unhealthily when someone I'm with is making a healthy choice and similarly, I struggle eat when no one else is (when with company). It is most definitely an irrational fear of looking greedy and not fitting with what I believe other people really think of me. 

But if I take a step back, then I'm actually (wrongly) rating myself very highly in everybody's life. If I'm eating a snack on the bus, chances are that no one is taking any notice of what I'm doing, yet I'm worrying about how I look. If I need to eat lunch earlier than everyone I'm with, then they probably assume I'm hungry, rather than that I'm greedy. Or, more accurately, they probably don't care at all. If I were advising someone else, then I'd be asking them why they think so much of themselves! I really do need to just do what I want to do rather than constantly worrying about my appearance. I only have one shot at life so if I want to eat chocolate, then I need to just do it.

Comparing my intake with everyone else and what I believe they think of me, can be very exhausting and in reality, it's stupid. There is always going to be someone who eats more or less than me, just like there is always going to be someone who achieves better or worse than me. That's just life! If we all ate the same, looked the same, achieved the same etc then life would be very dull and boring. Therefore, I am going make a real conscious effort to STOP comparing. After all, variety is the spice of life!
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3 comments

Gems - Fashion Well Done said...

You're so right, I have spent the majority of my life worrying about things that really don't matter, and it is hard to stop, but I have to keep telling myself that life is just too short.
Thanks for sharing something so personal.

Gems
Fashion, Well Done

Josie said...

You're right, no one will care! Probably one of the few instances in life when it's good to have no one care haha. Good luck with trying to let it go, I'm sure you will in time...it must be tough trying to change your mindset about some things after thinking a certain way for so long but you'll get there, just like you've achieved all the other things so far :D xxx

Tanya Beetham said...

You are correct - comparing ourselves to others is usually harmful and not helpful in the slightest. It is important not to beat yourself up when you find yourself doing this though - if it's happening, then I am a firm believer in listening to the message behind it..
Also - people probably don't care about the minor details that you mention. But what people do care about is who YOU are. People most certainly do care about that x

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