Sunday, 10 June 2012

Why do we care about what others think?

Something that has been playing on my mind for a while, is whether or not an anorexia sufferer should hide how skinny he/she is. With summer rapidly approaching, it is only natural for everyone for wear less and therefore we have more skin on show. Floral vest tops, printed t-shirts, summery dresses, demin shorts - you name it, everyone embraces the summer trends and wears them in a way that they like.
However, and maybe what other people think shouldn't matter, but when you see someone's bones poking out, most of us prejudge, some even comment. This isn't just for really skinny people though. When I was over 15 stone and wore shorts, comments we passed around about whether someone of that size should be wearing something so revealing. And now, I am a victim of this but for the opposing reason.
I love summer and I love fashion but if I want to wear what I want and express myself, I have to put up with negative comments and looks? Instead of wearing that lovely summery dress, I find myself hiding away with scarves and cardigans.
I don't know why I am people pleasing. Everyone has a right to wear what they want to wear without someone giving their opinion, when it is not wanted. Fat or thin, big or small - everyone is beautiful, right? This is what our society seems promote, yet none of us actually practises what we preach.

See the fat girl over there who is called 'fatty'? She's actually got cushing syndrome.
The boy who is scarred and told is ugly? He fought on the front line.

I could go on. The thing is, none of us has the right to insult someone's appearance.  Just because we can, doesn't mean we should. We don't know what people go through, behind closed doors. One tiny comment, could damage their self esteem enormously.

I will probably continue to wear accessories to cover up, this summer, but will definitely be making a concious effort to compliment someone who looks even slightly 'abnormal' - whatever that is. You never know, it might be the best thing that's happened to them in a long time.
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7 comments

Maiken said...

people are mean, that's a fact. and I think noone can change that.. unfortunately of course. I think this is something we have to get used to. all of us, normal, fat, too slim, whatever.. the world has just changed in time and become this pretty cruel place.

Maiken,
Maikeni blogi - part of me

Samantha Betteridge said...

Unfortunately, you are right. It's just a shame that we have accepted this instead of fighting for change. xx

Sophie Lowe said...

Everyone seems to be on a quest to be "perfect" but no body is perfect, and their shouldn't be a perfect figure, skin tone or fashion. The act of judging is, and always will be a part of our society but I think that by how we treat/teach the next generation we might get a breakthrough.

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xoxox

Samantha Betteridge said...

I think you are right about educating the youth of today. We just need the majority of people to agree, for it to happen :o) xx

Sarah said...

I agree with this completely, no one is perfect and it's a shame that people aren't comfortable wearing certain clothes because of how they might be perceived. It's not just a fat/thin thing either, I feel I'm too fair to wear anything like shorts or skirts without wearing tights or leggings underneath & my arms are too freckly that I wear cardigans even in hot weather. It's just a shame people make others feel bad for not being 'perfect'. xx

Samantha Betteridge said...

That is such a shame, because you are such a pretty lady :o) xx

Sarah said...

Eee thank you! :) I always think the camera is more forgiving because I have it on portrait mode, haha :) xx

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